How To Get Responses on Adult Dating Sites straight from Sophi
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Posted:Jun 24, 2015 12:03 pm
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2015 3:22 pm
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How To Get Responses on Adult Dating Sites straight from Sophi. Most of you know me, if not, you can read 90 days to Sophi on Lesbian Date Network or visit SophiExposed on the web. When I joined Lesbian Date Network over the holidays, I was 6 moths out of a marriage, no online dating experience, hell not dating in 7 years. My first night in my apartment I got some wine, my negligees and my phone and went to work. My profile sucked, my name was OK, but I got some amazing pics. I was receiving over 200 emails a day. Guys can't get away with that, women need more than a pretty package. These suggestions are what I used, to pick who actually got more than the auto response. This is my gift to you. Enjoy
How To/Not To Be Overlooked
Flirt Wink Favorite instead of Email - Screams I'm too lazy to put forth any effort. When and if she gets through emails, she might get to these. Save these for quick hello once you know her.
Rude/Crude Initial Emails/Comments - Sex site or not...It's still Dating - Most women, regardless of their motive, throw out the rude, crude, disrespectful emails. I actually respond most often to them with something like, "Does that ever work?" It doesn't matter if you're looking for an immediate hook up or long-term, take a few minutes and be respectful. Say Hello, say something that interested you on her profile, be upbeat and funny, Hope to hear from you soon.
Generic/Mass Emails - You can have a great profile and look amazing in your pictures, both of which might not ever be seen if you send too short of an email like Hello! or Sexy! They have nothing to work with to respond. It's too much work. Most of the time, they can spot mass emails as well. For example: Hello Sexy! You definitely got my attention. Want to chat? A Little effort, to generic, nothing to respond to. See Rude/Crude
Pictures - We know it's a sex site, that's why we are here. We understand you may not want to show your face publicly, I suggest First Classy, Fun or Erotic - further off - In a suit with nice background, hot tub saying cheers, playing drums, with your bike, or y favorite one, and I'll probably get in trouble for this but I'll share anyway, sexy pose sexy background that shows everything yet nothing like getting into a candlelit tub its far enough away dim lighting (hides background) we can see your naked but cant get the right angle and it also shows softer side. Second - Full Body, no head no junk, showing your build and your taste or personality; Third - Scantily Clad almost but not, just a TEASE picture. You pay lots of money, send hundreds of emails, put a little effort into your pictures, play with lighting, be creative. Remember that ew members cannot read profiles or see more than 3 pics until they are gold. NEW members are getting used to the site, they are not jaded yet, and they are probably still in shock. If they see you and someone else they will think your attached or worse you could post pictures of them like that. I suggest if you must have those, they go in a separate folder.
Profile - Nothing or Negativity - Don't bitch nd complain on your profile. Remember fresh meat her, we don't need to know you think this place is full of fakes, nobody is real, or whatever else your complaint is yet. If I look at 10 profiles and 4 complaining, I would assume its you not the site and keep going. If your profile says I don't know what to say, just checking things out I'm horny like 50 others today alone it will probably get passed over. If you don't spell or grammar check, it can get you passed over.
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Dominant vs. Domineering
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Posted:Apr 18, 2015 10:51 am
Last Updated:Sep 6, 2015 3:19 pm
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Shared from Dominant Soul
Dominant vs. Domineering Men…
I believe sexy is an attitude, not a dress size. I believe all women can be sexy. It is the presence that a woman projects when she carries herself into a room. Confidence is the raw essence of sexy – it is the raw energy that draws people to you… The challenge for women who are sexy and confident is what kind of man can handle being with them.
For most sexy, confident women, men who are intimidated by them are non-starters. They lack the sexual confidence to be attractive, interesting or alluring. Often these men will also naturally be submissive to a confident woman. However, the opposite can be very attractive to a confident woman – a confident man who chooses to be submissive to her (Domme/sub).
There are two other types of men who pursue confident women aggressively and they often appear very similar to each other but are quite different psychologically: Dominant (self-confident) vs. Domineering (controlling, manipulating, bullying). The purpose of this article is to give women the tools to be able to discern the differences and make better choices for their sexual partners.
You would think that most men would want sexy, confident women as partners. The real problem for confident sexy women is that most men cannot handle having a sexy confident woman once they win them over. They constantly fear they will eventually lose this sexy, highly sexual woman to another man – many male sexual insecurities kick in! In the end, most men fear they cannot satisfy the needs of a highly confident, highly sexual woman or stop the constant advances of other men upon a beautiful partner when they are not around.
Domineering men often view women as possession not partners/equals. Domineering personalities tend to be possessive, paranoid, highly jealous and controlling. As a coping strategy, domineering men tend to emotionally belittle, physically isolated or financially control women as ways of keeping their beautiful, sexy partners under their emotional control and keep them less sexually empowered.
How Domineering men emotionally control women (Physically, Emotionally, Financially, Sexually):
No wife of mine is going to the wedding dressed in that dress! You look like a two-dollar …
There is no need to change your hair. The old hairstyle looked fine.
The one-piece swimsuit is more respectable for the pool party
I thought you’ve been going to the gym regularly. You look like you gained some weight.
Why do you spend so much money on shoes and going to the spa constantly?
You need to see the doctor because I think you are a “nymphomaniac”!
You are running up huge phone bills calling your mom, sisters and friends all the time. You cannot keep wasting all this money gabbing!
I believe a highly confident, highly sexual woman can only find lasting happiness with a partner who actually encourages their sexuality rather than being intimidated or threatened by her sexuality. She needs a man who is even more sexually confident than herself.
I love when a woman tells me that they intimidate most other men. It instantly tells me this woman is likely very confident, intelligent, successful and very sexual (Woohoo!).
As a Dominant male, I am very self-confident. I crave women who can turn heads with their beauty and their brains. I crave a confident, intelligent, successful partner who turns heads and hold her own in a professional or public setting. At the same time, I am very proud of the sexy, feminine woman who is my partner. So, I actually want to show off my sexy, confident partner in the hottest dress and the sexiest shoes. I want her to feel beautiful, sexy, desired and cherished. I want every man in the room to turn, to drool over her and to crave her because I know she is leaving with me. I want men to tell her she looks really sexy tonight because that makes her feel amazing as a woman. I have no fear she is leaving me for another man EVER… That is the difference between a Dominant and a Domineering mindset.
The purpose of this article is to help women differentiate the different kinds of men and why they may keep selecting the same kinds of men over and over. This is not intended a promotional article for Dominant men.
Please comment or “Like” or “Share” this article… If this article raises questions in your mind, please post a comment. I look forward to discussing these ideas with like-minded people. If you want to stay informed of future writings, please subscribe to email alerts or twitter.
~DominantSoul
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90 Days to Sophi
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Posted:Apr 3, 2015 9:20 am
Last Updated:May 23, 2024 12:53 pm
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Like so many of us, for whatever reason, I found myself starting over. This time, I thought, I’m going to do it different. I’m going to take some time, figure out what I want, what I don’t want, what I like, and what I need. It was time to make a change, take a chance, explore a little and live life, my life.
The Question - Who am I? What do I want, that was the question. For the first time in my life, I was just me. . . I wasn’t a , a mother, a widow, a wife, a girlfriend, a mistress, or a lover. I was just me. For some reason Successful, Confident, Self Employed Woman didn’t cut it for me, I needed more. I had to find out, so, I put “My Life” on hold and went to discover “Myself”. I stepped out of my comfort zone and set off on a mission to find myself. Here’s my story:
The Move – Jimmy Buffet says it all, “With these changes in latitudes, and moved. NewToUptown had arrived.
The Discovery – Working from home, has its challenges. Not a lot of social interaction, but, I stepped out of my comfort zone and I signed up for online dating. Now this, like everything I do in life, went to extremes. I signed up for MANY sites. I was 100% truthful. Even had a disclosure. I discovered all the sites were basically the same. I received the same rude/crude/ unacceptable comments on all the sites. I encountered the same boring, obligated conversations.
The Selection – My preferred site has 100 men to every woman. Let’s say, I had lots to choose from. Now, I had to figure out what I wanted. I will not go into my criteria because everybody has their own, but, there were certain characteristics that would instantly turn me off and others that would peak my interest. I might know what I want?
The Profiles – WOW! Why lie? If you are online dating with the intention of ever meeting in real life, why lie? When you meet after a day, week, year, or decade of chatting you cannot hide who you are. If you claim to be and present yourself to be 6’3” 200lbs and built like a brick wall, yet you show up 5’8” 165lbs, you only hurt yourself. Embrace whoever you are, whatever that is, within legal limits, and go with it.
The Relationships – Granted, the NO folder is FULL. I went on numerous dates (good and bad) with people I would have never met in normal circumstances. I experienced things I would have never been exposed to without this exercise. I got the occasional player, or the cheater, but that is true in any dating forum. Then, I get to my favorites, not necessarily love connections, but my new FRIENDs.
The Outcome – Looking at myself today vs me 90 days ago, I have to say, I’m a little smarter, a little wiser, take a little more time for myself, enjoy my family and my friends more, and most of all, I know more about who I am and what I want…so I can be a better friend, lover and ultimately, a better ME. So Goodbye NewToUptown, 12/29/14-3/31/15!
It is time to Embrace My Halo and My Horns, it’s time to Embrace Sophi!
I dedicate Sophi to My Family, My Best Friend and My Inspiration.
I wouldn’t be here without each of you.
Sophi
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