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Springtime and Thoughts of Adventures
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Springtime and Thoughts of Adventures Spring in finally here, and our thoughts are turning to the possibilities of adventures. Recently P brought the topic up, and I listened intently. We have a pretty common issue occuring right now, and that is the lack of available time. We have met and are planning a date with a great couple (we have been out socially with them before) and it took 5 weeks to coordinate schedules again! Fortunately everyone understands the logistics of getting all four on the same page at the same time, so it is all good. But still, the lack of availability is tough! So P and I discusssed what type of adventures we were going to seek out. Well, not much was decided. Here's the rub, if you will. P will no longer get online here. She has been blasted by too many idiots who can't read, or are just downright rude. She is refusing to talk to anyone online anymore, and frankly I don't blame her. Constant barrages from single men - we don't mind the guys who say hi and understand we aren't looking for them - no big deal. It is the asshats who are rude for the sake of being rude. IF that works, go with it. Something tells me it doesn't. And especially not with us. So back to what we are seeking. Nice, normal, everyday, nonsmoking, decent people to get to know. See if there is a connection. Take it from there. Doesn't sound like it is that hard right? SO why is it? Well, there are the folks who really aren't a couple (single men pretending - and guys, you don't think the couples communicate about who you are???) couples who aren't serious (think they are ready, then flake) and finally there are the couples who enjoy and participate in the lifestyle - just having problems finding them! What astounds me is the lack of common courtesy. We know the IM system is flawed, so we never think about about not getting a response. But email? When we send an email, it means we are interested. No response means you don't have the common courtesy we want, and immediately removes you from our radar. So why be here if you aren't going to at least say no thanks? The thing that attracted us to this (from listening to Michael and Holli) was the lifestyle is supposed to be all about respect for each other. Yet we don't seem to be experiencing that all the time??? So as P and I work our way towards the next adventure (or two), we have come to a crossroads or sorts. Do we walk away or keep trying to find folks? She mentioned leaving as a possibility - then said we have found a few good keepers (becoming great friends and hope to have adventures with them in the near future!!!) and we believe our circle of friends can easily widen with more great people. Shame the idiots are ruining wht is supposed to be a fun thing! |
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Well idiots come in all shapes and sizes. One of the problems is thinking everyone on here understands the lifestyle. Last year I met a woman on here that had been swinging with her Husband but never had been told the rules. So the first problem is assuming everyone knows the rules. That being said I do agree that people should be able to respond with at least a no thank you. Over the years of being on here I have learned one thing. You can give up and stay home or try and meet some people.
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