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Smoking Issue
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Smoking Issue Recently we were contacted by a couple who wanted to meet. As we read their profile, we started to get a little excited. Then, we saw it. She was a 'light smoker'. Well, for us, smoking is a problem. I have a problem being in close proximity to a smoker for any length of time. And when I say close, I mean intimate close. I can stand and talk to folks without any issue, but put me right up against them and well, things don't go well for me. Smoke severely rips up my throat. Within just a few minutes, it gets a little scratchy, and the longer I am in contact with cigarette smoke the worse it gets. If I am in a smoky room, well, let's just say I won't stay. Can't stay. We have found people think this is a 'dumb excuse' to blow them off (actually was said to us). Or, as one couple said - 'won't smoke around you - we can go without for a few hours'. Thing is, the smell is still on the clothing, hair, skin. I kissed a lady once who said she didn't smoke, and I could taste it. Well, that kiss didn't last long! Even the smell of smoke can and does bother me, just not quite as quick. We don't care if people smoke. That is their choice. What we do have an issue is when we are upfront about it, and people skirt the issue. I can't be around smoke, it bothers me badly. That is my issue. So please understand if you are smokers, and ask us if we are interested, when we turn you down this is why. It isn't you, it's me. |
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We can understand smoking is a definite no no for us too, neither us smoke and you are right it does linger, don't feel bad or apologize for not wanting to put up with smokers, and no people shouldn't try to skirt the issue
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In this case, smoking is an absolute deal breaker. It just isn't worth the issues I have from it. I can stand and talk to folks who are smokers, can be around them at a distance, just can't be close. So, while we have met some really great folks who smoke, I will miss out on knowing them intimately - and vice versa.
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It is posted on our profile. I smoke. If it is a deal breaker, then that is understandable. Just you lose out on other options too. A deal-breaker is a deal-breaker. It's not negotiable, right? Swinging is not just about the sex (contrary to what some people think), friendships are made, business deal are stuck, the world is changed. I guess there are some people we will never know.
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Its the smell and kissing someone is such a turn off. I have went down on a woman and even that tasted like an Ash tray. Sorry I am done.
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