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He's so weird
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He's so weird I really don’t get this guy. Why would he continue to feign interest in me just to avoid hurting my feelings? Maybe he did like me but changed his mind. Maybe he just wanted sex. Does he just continue to lead me on just for a future hookup or just to play with me? We first started talking two weeks ago on Okcupid. He sent me a message. I responded to him. We had a nice chat and he gave me his number. Then we agreed to meet on Friday. For me, our time together was perfect. He was the kind of guy I always hoped I would meet. We had amazing conversation. We made out like crazy and even had sex, which I really regret now. At the time, I was hesitant to have sex too. But I just thought, “Whatever, go for it!!” I feel so stupid and hurt now. I thought he had interest in me because of how genuine and sweet he was. When I left his place, he walked me to my car, kissed and hugged me goodnight. He said he was glad he met me and we would do something nice next time. As I drove off, he stood there looking at me. The next morning he texted me, saying he hoped I made it to work on time. All of this made me think this could be the start of something nice. After Saturday he didn’t text me, so I texted him on Tuesday. We just had small talk and he didn’t bring up meeting or ask me when I was available, even though he mentioned twice that he wanted to see me again on our date. He didn’t text me after that again. So I texted him on Friday, and by this point I have thoroughly embarrassed myself with this guy. I kind of confronted him about his intentions…..lol bad idea. I also asked if he would like to get together again. He seemed very happy that I asked him and he jumped on the opportunity. Some of his texts were: “You’re a very sweet and amazing person. Sorry, I haven’t been very attentive. But I really enjoyed your company. You’re a sweetheart.” “I would love to see you again doll face. Duh! Lol” “No way Jose! When are you free?” “Yes, that sounds great!” So it doesn’t sound like he is dating other women or he is making up excuses. He also responds quickly to my texts. Maybe he is lying and he doesn’t want to admit that he’s not into me and he doesn’t want to completely ignore me and hurt my feelings. Yesterday I texted him that I was available to meet on Wednesday or Thursday. He replied, “I’m free now.  ” and “Yes, that sounds fine.” I then asked him what he wanted to do and which day he wanted to meet. After that I received no responses from him. He just ignored me in the middle of the conversation. I think I just have to wait until Wednesday or Thursday to see if he texts me and has a plan. If he doesn't, then I will know to forget him. Lol I am really asking for trouble thinking about this guy. Eh, who am I kidding? He is not going to text me anymore. Another case of “he’s just not that into you.” That’s the story of my life.
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WOW !! 
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Honey, he sounds totally normal to me. lol Honestly...just go with the flow and try to not put all your eggs in one guy's basket. Enjoy yourself and have fun and don't read too much into anything. No one has any idea what they're doing anymore in terms of love/dating/sex....just do what feels good to you. IF it doesn't feel good, don't do it.
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 Who knows?
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I agree with sticky lips.
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its a waiting game and you going to make the first move or second, he is just putting you on hold to maybe see what is someone else is doing or to see if you want him that much to keep calling . your smarter than that and much much better. if you don't hear from him after today or Monday, i say, NEXT .
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Now I remember why I hate dating. It is just exhausting.
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All i'm going to say is, BE CAREFUL !!!!!1 My opinion, your getting played with !!! sorry, but that's how i see it.
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Yes, you should always keep your options open. But in my case, I have been single my whole life. It's been very hard for me to find the right person. Sure, there's a lot of guys who are good looking but usually I don't have much in common with them, they are mean, no chemistry, don't have real interest, or just want sex. Then there a of guys who are interested in dating me, but they are seriously unattractive. There are a lot of very rude and stupid guys too....just incredible, very disrespectful. So this is the same as having no options. Here I met this guy, I don't know him very well but I liked everything about him. There were no upfront dealbreakers. He was cute, tall, polite, funny, and we had a connection. That’s all it takes. I thought I am sick of looking, I would just like to try dating this guy. Plus...as this is key...any great guy out there will be 10x more interested in a woman who is comfortable in her own skin, out conquering the world on her own, than a woman who needs him to complete her. Don't be that needy girl who needs man to feel whole.
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Haven't read the entire thread but did read your initial post. If you met on OKcupid he is probably juggling multiple interests, not going to speculate on how many but I would bet the farm he is not putting all his eggs in one basket, so like a previous post said, you shouldn't either. Also do not worry about sleeping with a guy too early, which many women think doing so will ensure a guy won't stick around. All this does is prolong the inevitable, because if he's just after the notch in the belt, then he will hit it and quit it on the 3rd or 4th date instead of the 1st. If a guy is seriously into a chick, the first date or the 5th date won't make the difference. I as well am a single guy, 34 years old, no kids, no wives and the reason for this is because in modern times the allure of marriage just isn't there. I've got a good job, good physique, college degree, my own place, nice car, a savings account, over 700 credit score, no diseases and for all practical purposes look like an A+ on paper. It's not that I'm insane or mentally unstable but I haven't met anyone with whom I click that would make me want to give up my freedom. Marriage is not about what you get or give, it's about what you're willing to give up. This guy most likely adores the shit out of you, enjoys his time with you, but is very cautious about leading women on as he has most likely dragged some hearts through the mud in the past and doesn't want to do it anymore. I make this assumption since he is 35 and never been married or had kids. Like the previous post said, go with the flow if you're enjoying your time and just know your nature as a women is going to conflict with his nature, and ask yourself the question, is the time you do get to spend with him worth it? Also, keep in mind the less you worry about it and keep things stress free, the more likely he is to spend more time with you and the more time you have to show him why he should stay.
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