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A Question.......  

passer58by 66M
1586 posts
9/4/2010 4:02 am

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A Question.......
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ladycasilda 65F

9/4/2010 5:45 am

 I have thought about this many times, because I think it can be possible.
There is a french movie, tittled Jules et Jim, with a young Jean Moreau, that is about this kind of relationship. Its very complicated and tormented....
Inteligencia=erotismo


wickedeasy 74F
32404 posts
9/4/2010 12:31 pm

 i read the book - one of irving's weakest i thought. and hardest to get into....

that being said.

i don't share well so i don't expect it of others. i do know that at one point in my life (i was 29) i was in love with two men. only one of them knew of the other. eventually, he forced a choice. he didn't share well either. my gut feeling is that polyamore works only when people are not deeply entrenched in theother person as a partner/lover. from what i have witnessed, usually one of the folks ends up feeling hurt, jealous or left out. i knwo bdsm households where a Dom(me) has many slaves where this is not so, but then that is a specific dynamic where power is so unequal that one wonders if that doesn't entirely alter the issue as the slave only has others as the master allows.

short answer......nope, i don't think it usually works.
You cannot conceive the many without the one.


passer58by 66M
4170 posts
9/5/2010 4:54 am
    Quoting ladycasilda:
    I have thought about this many times, because I think it can be possible.
    There is a french movie, tittled Jules et Jim, with a young Jean Moreau, that is about this kind of relationship. Its very complicated and tormented....
It seems those type relationships would be quite complicated, and me, I'm a fan of simplicity.


passer58by 66M
4170 posts
9/5/2010 5:01 am
    Quoting wickedeasy:
    i read the book - one of irving's weakest i thought. and hardest to get into....

    that being said.

    i don't share well so i don't expect it of others. i do know that at one point in my life (i was 29) i was in love with two men. only one of them knew of the other. eventually, he forced a choice. he didn't share well either. my gut feeling is that polyamore works only when people are not deeply entrenched in theother person as a partner/lover. from what i have witnessed, usually one of the folks ends up feeling hurt, jealous or left out. i knwo bdsm households where a Dom(me) has many slaves where this is not so, but then that is a specific dynamic where power is so unequal that one wonders if that doesn't entirely alter the issue as the slave only has others as the master allows.

    short answer......nope, i don't think it usually works.
I agree that the book was hard to get into, and at times, hard to follow. But, I found myself getting more involved in the story the deeper I got into the book. That was the first Irving book I've read and I think I may read some more.

I know I'm a jealous person so I have little doubt that it wouldn't work for me.


passer58by 66M
4170 posts
9/5/2010 5:07 am
    Quoting  :
I enjoyed the book, but wickedeasy is correct, it was difficult to get into it. The relationship between these three characters, while integral to the story, isn't the main story, in fact it's given only a brief mention. Much of it didn't make sense to me. I couldn't wait to finish it to see how it ended, and when I was done, I wished there was more because I missed the story.

It's funny how intriguing it can be when we are getting all of the attention. LOL


rdy2try4 59F  
3330 posts
9/17/2010 6:43 am
    Quoting passer58by:
    It seems those type relationships would be quite complicated, and me, I'm a fan of simplicity.
I agree with you totally, simplicity is easy. I am not deceitful nor do I wish to be and it just would seem wrong. It may be for others and I wouldn't pass judgement but I would not participate at all.


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